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Monday, July 20, 2009

Tranquilizer Anyone?

I’m trying something new. First off, I need to share some information about myself so let me state some facts. I’m a woman. (Uh…Duh, Annie!) As such, I tend to be more emotional than I would prefer. (Another news flash, I’m sure.) I’m also very intelligent. If there is one thing that should be known about me, it’s this: I dislike being “talked down” to in any circumstance or being treated in a patronizing manner. Of course, that also depends on who is doing the talking. If it’s a boss or one who is in authority (i.e. knows more about the subject in question), I don’t feel quite so vehement. If it is a teacher or instructor, I also have no problem. However, when it is someone who is on a similar level or is below me in rank (can you tell I’m talking about work?), I find it extremely condescending and most irritating.

However, as I said, I’m trying something new. I’m trying to maintain a level of emotional tranquility. I have been such a roller coaster in the past. It’s something I have always wanted to change. As I read an LDS book called “Our Search for Happiness”, those two words struck me: “emotional tranquility”. I suddenly had a mental picture of my emotional self running around like a mad woman and then being shot with a tranquilizer dart. That alternate self was immediately sedated and sent into a calm, cool-headed condition. She was not easily provoked and had unparalleled control over herself and her temperament.

Now, I’m not really an anxious person. I try to have a positive outlook. But I certainly can get myself riled up. Ask my family. Now, when I start heading down the road of provocation, I remember the words, “emotional tranquility.” So far, it calms me down. It has helped me to imagine that emotional basket case and envision her as she turns into a serene, composed woman. This has been an interesting trial run to say the least.

Since making this mental change, I have had repeated instances (that would have previously driven me up the wall) where I have put this mind game into action. For example, since I got to work today, several of my coworkers have been talking “down” to me. They have treated me as if I have no common sense. I guess if you think about it, common sense really isn’t that common, but I am on of those individuals who use common sense. I promise. Anyways, these associates have been more on the condescending side and it started getting on my nerves. As I wrote earlier, being patronized really boils my potatoes. Being treated like I don’t know a Twinkie from a donut or Skittles from M&M’s is not my favorite pastime. But in the process of writing this blog and repeatedly thinking, “Be Tranquil.” I’ve given the old mental tranquilizer dart the time to kick in.

Isn’t it wonderful that we can choose how to react to things?! Choice is such an important part of life: difficult at times, but worth it.

Now, I choose to go get some lunch. If you couldn’t tell, I’m hungry! (Mmmm…donuts!)

6 comments:

Shirrel Cooper said...

Donuts for lunch? I'm not sure that will help with the emotional tranquility you are searching for. Which, by the way, makes me want to say that everyone needs to search for this emotional tranquility. Wouldn't the world be a lot better of a place if everyone had a tranquil emotional exsistance?

Katie said...

This emotional tranquility...I think it's good to have it in some ways. But there's also a part of me that recognizes that change usually doesn't happen in this world until at least one person gets super fired up.

Just a thought.

Brea Marie said...

I wondered where you've been. Off to some land of emotional tranquility. I think I may need to get some directions. I'm not sure I can make that trip alone. But maybe I will attempt it. Thanks Annie!

Annie said...

Thanks ladies! Shirrel, donuts definitely wouldn't help the nagging headache I've had. Blech! But the world would definitely be a much better place if everyone had a bit of control over their reactions. :)

Confuzzled, I do agree. Amazing things can happen when someone acts. Recently, at work, they were going to cut my hours and give them to other employees. I have been there for 6 years and am pretty high up on the seniority list. Needless to say, I was very upset. My mom finally convinced me to call my boss and relay my concerns. Without my heightened emotions, I don't think I would have called him and shared my concerns. I did get back the hours I needed.

I think in certain situations, those emotions are necessary. However, I have been much more sensitive and easily provoked lately. Not good! I feel that I will be a better person once I learn to control those extreme tendencies. Here's hoping!

Brea, I have been a slacker in writing. You know when the words just won't flow? Anyway, if I can perfect this emotional control, I'll let you know! I think it will take much practice and patience. But I'm sure it can be done!

Janel said...

You're doing great on your emotional tranquility. And if you ever need an ACTUAL tranquilizer dart... I'm your gal! :)

My Boys, Life's Joys said...

I love you Annie!